This one goes back a bit, at least for the beginning.
At first he was lovely. But as time wore on we slid backwards and became a booty-call instead of stepping it up and deepening our relationship.
It wasn’t what I was looking for and he seemed to spend more time on www.plentyoffish.com looking for someone new than with me.
I took the hint. Disappointing, but that’s the way it goes sometimes. When I told him it wasn’t working out for me, he said okay. No asking why, or was I sure, just OK.
So flash forward to a week ago Thursday (5 months later). Out of the blue I get this message from him. “I miss you, can you come away for the weekend.”
Pardon me for being cynical, but ‘I miss you’ directly translates into ‘I’m horny’ where he’s concerned. Being the polite chick I am, I emailed back saying I was busy. Which was the truth.
This past weekend he was back again. Casual questions at first, (How’s this? How’s That?) Then telling me that he can’t get me out of his mind. Did I mention this was after 5 months of silence.
Next thing you know he was calling me (apparently the silence wasn’t because he lost my number). He finally asked me the million dollar question – why did I leave? Or more accurately, why was I hesitating about coming back?
When I listed off the reasons, one-sided, felt like a booty call, his constantly checking the dating site (even after my profile was removed BTW), and most importantly, his forgetting even basic manners around me.
He said I should have called him on his behaviour.
I replied, I shouldn’t have to remind him of stuff his 6-year old knows. Call me weird but babysitting the man I’m dating is not a turn-on.
He said he just felt so comfortable around me.
One day he made me wait an hour for him to arrive. When he did he merely grunted hello and headed to the bathroom, leaving the door open so I could hear every plop, plop and rustle as he turned pages of the newspaper – for over half an hour. Seriously, if he’s that comfortable after a few months, I don’t want to stick around to see what he would be like after a few years.
And he wants me to go back?
Not bloody likely!
